Is It Proper To Jealous?

I was just trying to shut my eyes, the past few hours has been very hectic, when this very friend reconnected me back with the reality with a tap on the shoulder. According to him, he've called me twice before giving the tap. (Wow, I even thought I'm just about to close my eyes. But he is testifying that I'm already on the journey, for at least, a minute.) I sluggishly jerked and separated my eyelids hugs from each other. OMG, I'm tired, and my eyes must have been unhappy for the early-cutoff. 

"What's the matter please?" I inquired, with a dainty and visibility of weakness boldly seen on my words. He replied, I want to ask you a question". "Go on please" I replied back. 

He asked me "Have You Ever Been Jealous Of Someone's Success? " The question came flying like a drone, across my ears. Few thoughts came running in, at least, "...you need to understand what he asked; understand what he wants to hear; decide either to go in either ways; ensure you clarify yourself first, then him..." I immediately asked him back, "would you mind staying patiently with me while I answers and explain the rationale for my answer?" He politely agreed. 

Then I opened up; 

If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.-Pat Riley

"Answering yes to your question without any explanations may prompt me thinking differently about myself (maybe because I couldn't clearify myself, as well as others, my reasons of being jealous )".

However, jealous can be  seen as showing extreme cupidity; painfully desirous of another's advantages. It can entail, showing extreme desire of another's advantages, with no intent of harm to the person. Sometimes, it calls for envy; either to the person and his achievements, or towards his achievements only, without any form of bad or harmful intention towards the achiever. In certain cases but not always, the rational motive of this jealousy could be centred on the vantage point of the one who is being green-eyed. Though, it can be a cause of harm to the person, when you evil-mindedly raise your emotions towards such person. 

Meanwhile, in the case of it, not being with the intention to hurt or harm such person, it can be a way of reminding or wishing yourself, and enhancing your strength towards your life-trials or life-missions. Only with the positivity of the mind! With this reason, after beholding another's advantages, it can push you in comparing yourself to do more and to go higher, faster, and harder than you must have been. This is done with the positivity of the mind, clear abstainacy from evil-mindedness and ill-thought towards the person. It's more about your own personal self. We always have this intense urge to do more than we must have been doing, when our partner's inputs starts yielding out than ours, while we must have both started the same mission - especially when it is the same time. 

On this ground, we would admit that;

Someone would ask, can one possibly be jealous of the another's advantages without any form of bad intentions? The answer could be quite - yes. It is all dependent of the state of the mind. How the mind is being set, positioned or controlled towards the situation. Often times, we tags jealous to only fueled by envy and hatred, but then in some cases, it is not always that way. 

For better illustrations for understanding on this let's imagine the following situations; 

We must have heard of jealous-lover, in a relationship. A wife or husband, girlfriend or boyfriend can be a jealous-lover. In this situation, one of the partners in the relationship has this urge to be jealous, and starts feeling angry or unhappy because the other (who they like or love) is showing interest in someone else. Maybe the one who they prioritizes is showing interest in someone else, while giving the treatments they feels to deserve, to someone else. That's a kinda feeling, deprived. In some cases, the partner must have been something that makes him/her proud, therefore he/she would feels angry or unhappy to loose the gem to someone else, or for it to be shared with someone. This feeling is not being fueled by the act to harm anyone -- at the first place -- not even the lover. In this situation, Jealous will still be taking up in normal course until the partner allows the feeling to be intensively mixed with dark-thoughts. Though it can lead to some unfortunate circumstances. Nevertheless, the actions, either evilish or otherwise, is determined by how the partners reacted to the situation. 

Don't fight what you love, you'll only end up practicing it somewhere else.

With our illustrations above, we can understand that Jealous can be of two main face. Hence, either to harm, intend harm or wish any unfortunate situation on someone because of their progress, due to greediness, hatred,  selfishness or envy. On the other hand it can either be a form of wishing yourself, you would've get to a certain level in which someone else is, without you having any foul intentions against such person. That is, you're comparing yourself and wishing you were the one that has the opportunity. In this manner, you can either use the positive mindset to compare yourself into improving and doing better than you've been doing. You can use the mindset to boost your own self, to get that which interests or inspires you in the other person. 

When you have love and happiness together in your life you will be the most prefect person.

Maybe you would want to ask me, have you jealoused someone's  advantage?  (smiles) 

Using the above illustrations or definition of jealous , I would tell you that I've once felt this same way. And this was how it went; 

I have this friend on Facebook, who tells me about online business opportunities(I always has the interest on how to earn money online). But due to my past experiences on online business where I have lost countlessly without earning any dime(though this was due to my inexperience), I literally got a dead heart to proceed with the intention. He kept convincing me up-to nearly-impossible line.

Yesterday = Experience. Today = Experiment. Tomorrow = Expectations. Use your experience in your experiment to achieve your expectations

As usual, he chatted me up telling me about a newly launched platform really pays, but I didn't give it an appreciated attention. 

There is absolutely NO problem that faith will not solve. Each of us has an ability within us and around us to find a way, every day. experience proves that

He moved on with the platform while helping another guy get along with him. Suprisingly to me, he came back to me a few weeks later, telling me how far he has gone with the platform while showing me his current earnings - I was really amazed! I jealoused this new found glory, but positively! I wished I accepted his offer initially. Now, to be sincere here, this was what triggered and magneted me to the platform, in which few weeks later, I started smiling like him!

When he was telling me about this opportunity, I took it to be like every other online platforms. I was having a very little knowledge about Blockchain network business (it is Blockchain-based business. An Ethereum project, built in Blockchain Smart Contract. It can never be removed, deleted or hacked, as long as the Blockchain network exists). However, he told me that I would really need a start up fee of 0.03 ETH, up-to $5 to get started. (On my thoughts, the amount is very little, but how sure am I that it is not going to be 'time, effort, and energy wasting-trash'). In order to clear my scepticism, he initially offered to pay the start-up amount for me. But, don't you think that'll, in a way, call for my unseriousness in it? I decided to dive in, with my own capital, besides "no risk no success". 

Every experience brings more clarity to your life. As you learn from them you will see the blessings and then give thanks for each one

But then, at the end with no atom of exaggeration this is best jealous ever, but I'm glad I jealoused him(laughs). Had I not done that, I wouldn't have gotten that far. At least I earns on daily basis from the platform, unlike before that encounter. 

Winners are there within you and me, we just need to explore those capabilities.

That is my own advantage from getting jealous of my friend's success. 

Go the extra mile! It's never crowded.

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